As of October 3, 2011:
I can share with you MY update. I’m working more, FOR PAY! Greg is making LOTS of progress. Relationship is still rocky, but I think we’re making progress on that front, too.
We are both still plagued by procrastination, denial, and communication issues. Again, though, I think we’re having some better, more respectful times with each other.
I am filled with hope for the future, and pride and support for Greg, which he doesn’t always realize.
We are both strengthening ourselves personally, with our individual communities, families, and friends, although, sometimes that can be a source of conflict in itself for us.
I want him home, and to finish “The Project;” I understand he has to do things his way, and try to remain respectful of his methods. He is definitely processing the loss of his parents as he works on the clean-up. I would feel very comforted by his returning to work, even part time, for self-esteem issues as much as for income.
(HB note: For additional progress reports and photos, visit Sidney’s blog at http://www.milbetweenus.com )
As of May 18, 2011:
For a progress report at the ONE YEAR mark, see Sidney’s blog:
Bottom line: Still a ways to go…
As of Friday, March 11, 2011:
Things are things here [in Burbank]. In a VERY small nutshell: Greg is still not working for pay and his progress has screeched to a halt in San Diego, although to be fair, I’ve not been to witness that since you [Hannah] were there [in September]! His anxiety, rage and drinking are escalating. He is not eating well, but says he has begun to get some exercise, which is very good.
We still aren’t getting along like peaches and cream.
I am concerned for Greg’s health and happiness, but have confidence he is capable of progressing further. I just hope it happens soon. On 3/15/11, it will be TEN MONTHS TO THE DAY [since “the project” began].
As of late December, 2011:
(Note from Hannah: I met Greg and Sidney in September 2010 – four months into what was supposed to be a six-month “project” and created this blog a few weeks ago in order to share Greg’s story. In light of the chord it has struck with so many, I asked Sidney for an update. As you can see, this is obviously a story that is – and may forever be- a work in progress.)
We are now past the seven-month mark and I feel Greg’s progress has stalled. He’s working hard, but not on things that are moving the project forward. Nothing has been listed on eBay. Boxes of things make their way up to Burbank so that he can process them while at home, but that doesn’t happen, so he lugs them back to San Diego. I fear that he is doing the hoarder-shuffle: moving things from one area to the next instead of eliminating them.
Our relationship is more strained than ever. Finances are tightening, and that’s not easy for anyone. I’m still not working, so that is also an area of stress. Intimacy is almost non-existent, with him gone for weeks at a time and his coming home so stressed. I am pushing away, too, in an effort not to get hurt by his words and behavior.
I still support him (emotionally, not financially), and I fully believe that he is capable of completing this clean-up. But I don’t know if he fully believes that. There is a part of him who could just live in the house as-is and be perfectly content.
The article touches me to tears each time I read it, so I now I just read the new comments. They often buoy me. Greg? I don’t know. He’s not very free with his more delicate emotions, and frequently tells me not to wear mine on my sleeve. He was very impressed by the article, but he doesn’t read the comments. I’ll read him one every now and then, but I don’t want to crowd his already crowded mind unless he’s really benefitting from it.
I don’t know where we are right now or where we’ll be in 2011. Hopefully in a better place.